Backbiting

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Presents: Backbiting
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh.
الحمدلله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله و على آله و أصحابه ومن اهتدى بهداهم و بعد. رب اشرح لي صدري و يسرلي امري واحلل عقدة من لساني يفقهوا قولي. اما بعد
فالسلام عليكم و رحمة الله و نركاته
We have have discussed *SUSPICION and SPYING*. The next point I will discuss with us tonight In sha Allah is BACKBITTING.
Backbiting is from the word Backbite which means in English language: To make spiteful slanderous or defamatorystatements about someone.(informal) To attack from behind or when out of earshot.To speak badly of an absent individual.
In Arabic language its called الغيبة
The Messenger of Allah (S.A.W) said that, backbiting is talking about somebody which if he heard, it would grieve him.
Hence it is not allowed to talk about somebody in his absence even if what was narrated was true. If it was not true, then it would be a bigger sin and is called بهتان (False Accusation).
It is important to note that to find others' fault or to talk sarcastically or to defame a person is called لمز which Allah says about in the Qur'an:
Suratul Hujrat verse 11:
وَلاَ تَلْمِزُوٓٱ أَنْفُسَكُمْ
Do not defame oneanother.
It means that when you find faults with others, they will turn around and find faults in you.
The beauty of this wording of Qur'an is that it says that finding faults in others is like finding faults in yourself. Just like Allah said:
وَلاَ تَقْتُلُوٓاْ أَنْفُسَكُمْ
Do not kill yourself.
Hence if you kill others, they will try to kill you too.
Allah also says in Suratul Humazzah verse 1 :
وَيْلٌ لِكُلِّ هُمَزَةٍ لُّمَزَةٍ
Woe to every slanderer and backbiter.
An Urdu poet says:
When I did not know about myself
I was always finding faults in others.
When I focused on my own faults
I do not find any other person worse than myself.
In verse twelve of Suratul Hujraat, Allah made it clear that defaming another Muslim in his absence is like eating the flesh of your dead brother, which obviously everybody hates. Hence it is most horrible sin. Note that if he person is present, he may have a chance to defend himself although everybody does not have the courage to defend himself in these circumstances. If, however, he is defamed in his absence, the damage is deep as somewhat permanent. Allah describes this backbiting in such a manner that every Muslim should develop hatred for this hideous crime.
Backbiting is not done by tongue alone, l. It can also be done with the eyes, hand, and other movements. For example, imitating someone who is limping in order to insult him.
The Messenger of Allah said: الغيبة أشد من الزنا
"Backbiting is a worse sin than adultery"
It is further explained in a saying of the prophet narrated by Abu Sa'īd and Jabir h Abdullah : Allah may forgive a person of he repents after committing adultery. However, Allah will not forgive the one who backbites till his victim forgives him." (Al-Bayhaqi).
*One time the Prophet pointed towards two graves and said to his companions that both of these people are being tortured in their graves. One of them used to backbite people, and the other was not careful about the spilling drops of urine on his clothes and body whilst urinating. (Bukhari and Muslim)*
Imam Ghazali writes in his book إحياء علوم الدين about Hasan al-Basri (Rh) that a person used to backbite Hasan al-basri, so Hasan al-Basri sent some dates as a present to this person on learning about his backbiting. Hasan al-Basri also sent this message, "By backbiting you are transferring your good deeds to me. I realise that these dates are not the fitting gift for the good you are doing to me. I request that you accept this humble present"
Subhanallah!!
*Note that backbiting a child, a mad person, or a disbeliever is also not allowed.*
The following are not considered backbiting:
1. To complain to a person about a cruel official so that the concerned official can discipline the cruel one.
2. To complain to a father or husband about a child or wife respectively who can possibly reform them.
3. To describe detailed circumstances to get Fatwah.
4. To describe something to save Muslims from religious victimisation.
5. To describe full circumstances for professional consultations.
6. To mention the major sins of a person who commits that sin openly, boldly, and takes pride in it (The book of Good manners, Imtiaz Ahmad)
Note that the common point in all above cases is that, the mention is being made for a specific need and not for degrading or defaming others intentionally or unjustly.
Further note that listening to backbiting the same as backbiting somebody. It is better to walk away from such individuals.
Backbiting violates the rights of Allah and the rights of people simultaneously. Hence, it is necessary to ask for forgiveness from the victim first, since Allah will not forgive unless the victim forgives. If the victim has died or is untraceable, then ransom has to be paid. Anas (RA) narrated that the messenger of Allah said:
"The ransom for backbiting is to pray to Allah for forgiveness by saying, " Oh Allah' Forgive my sins and his too."
I pray to Allah to save us from bad *suspicion*, *Spying*, and *backbiting*. Ameen.
سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك اشهد أن لا إله الله استغفرك و اتوب اليك
As salam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh
SPEAKER : UMAR ABDULBASIT (ABU 'ASIM)
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