MARRIAGE AND SINGLE COUNSELLING

DREAM DA'WAH NETWORK

Presents :- Marriage Counseling and Single Counselling.

All praises is due to Allah,may His blessings be showered on the noble prophet, his households,his companions and the generality of the ummah till the end of time.
I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed(shaytan). In the name of Allah, the most gracious, the most merciful.
I start with khutbatul hajjah( d sermon of need) of the prophet with which he usually start his speech( innalhamda lillah.......)
Ammaa ba'ad (as to what follows) As salamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakahtuhu.

I have been tasked with the responsibility of delivering lecture on marriage counseling/single counselling and in sha Allah ta ala,I will try as much as possible to deliver it to the best of my ability...😊😊 never mind.
Allah says in the Glorious Qur'an : " and we have created everything in pairs that perhaps you may remember"(adh- dharriyat)
Growing past childhood and becoming man and wife with someone is the most pertinent step any human can take in the interest of their own happiness and well-being as it's a very important sayings of the noble being(prophet) such that whoever exempts himself from this sunnah is deemed to have fallen out of the fold of Islam.
However, like everything on earth, there are sacrifices and prices to pay in marriage.The way to handle the various phases of marriage is the most important part
The rates at which couples divorce these days is quite alarming,I have heard of a man that wants divorce at all cost,you wanna know the reason? Oh yes I will tell u,this Abu wants divorce because he don't like the way his hajia squeeze toothpaste,A vacous! If I may say My fellow sisters may be we will have to enroll in toothpaste squeezing school😂😂😂but truly,it's not funny as this is one of the numerous reasons for divorce these days and 21st century and all that.
Allah says :
"And among Allah's sign is this; that he created for you,spouses from among yourselves, so that you might find rest in them and he has set between you,love and compassion- truly there are signs in this for those who reflect(Ar room 21)
Allah, in that verse,promises that the love between spouses is from HIM,and as such,you should regard it as a sacred thing and not allow the trials of the marital life to Mar the beautiful life that Allah has planned for you.
As couples 👫 💞 allow your differences to be resolved amicably, never allow the intervention of a third party, give room for mistakes and readily forgive, control your tongue as it can wreck more havoc than you can ever imagine. think for two as you are one that has two sides now 💍
Marriage is such an important step that the prophet spoke of it as being half of the Deen; whoever has married has complete half of his religion;there of let him fear Allah in the other half.
The completion of one's Deen has lots of components, which the most important is TAQWA(fear of Allah). You have to have the fear of Allah rooted in you.
Trust between both parties is important as doubt breed fear,each time I see a marriage with low level of trust,it makes me think for them 🤔 what are they now promoting? Some hatred of course! For how possible is it for a mouth to yarn and speaks at the same time??
control your temper and take the advice of the prophet 'do not be angry' .
My fellow brother who acts as if they are jagaban . Akhi,being the amir of your house is not just about being the commander or inspector general of your crib,make sure you always pray tahajjud with your spouse.
Strive to make your love 💞 stronger 💪for its love that which makes marriage,not a soppy sentimental kind of romantic dream but the sort of love which will roll up its sleeves and get stuck into the mess. The sort of love (khadijah and the prophet) which will hang up to you when everyone else has turned against you or spoken ill of you,while you are sure of the kind of confidence reposed in you by your partner ( who knows yo better than any one else ) and will never spring to your defense
We can say it on and on but I will like to stop here.
Till next week we meet in sha Allah, With this I say : Whatever that constitutes right from what I have written above is from Allah while those that has wrongs in it,is from shaytan and me and Allah and his prophet are there of free from it
I beseech Allah to grant us someone who will be the garment of our soul,the one who will complete half our Deen and in doing so make us whole.
And as for the Abus and Ummus in the room,may He make your spouse the coolness of your eyes and grant you a lots of goodness and benefits in it.
Subhanakal lahumma wabihamdika Ashadu anla ilaha ila anta Astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.
Wasalamu Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu....

Speaker : Amori Lateefah Oluwashikemi (Dream)