MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT POLYGAMY

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PRESENTS : MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT POLYGAMY

Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakahtuhu
Respectable Brothers in the Deen,
It is not wrong for you to have the aim of marrying more than two wives when u get ripe for marriage. It is something Allah has made halal maa shaa Allah. So no man has an excuse of doing zina because wallahi Our Maker understands our nature cos He created us such I mean The males, we are such that our heart can get attracted to many things without loosing value of the other
The aspect of justice, even Allah said we can never be just justice is to Allah we humans(males) can only try to be just (sincere trial).
Sheikh Ibn bazz said the principle is polygamy, Cos Allah started with mathna.
It is a western idea imposed on us( me and my husband Not we and our husband). Just for us to loose our islamic culture and it has brought a lot of crisis to this ummah how many sisters are left unmarried.
As at around 2007 if am not mistaken the ratio of women to men was 3:1
Who will marry the 2 ratio left?
And the thinking of some sisters is just that Ii suffered with my husband and a lady wants to come and enjoy, thinking this way is absolutely wrong.
Allah gives rizq to whosoever He wants,Permit me to share a real life experience
then try reason with it.
There was a woman whose husband happened to be a friend to my dad's friend,
So he was the one that narrated the story to me.
So this woman used to say; I'd rather kill my husband and myself than for him to marry another wife Subhanallah!! And this man had the intention of marrying another wife so after hearing this serious threat he stopped.
Barely a year later this man died and the woman was still in her prime, Out of love for her husband she said no man would ever lay on top her again.
After few months she went to meet this friend of my dad and told him that she is now feeling the need to get laid with and she doesn't want to commit zina therefore (the husband's friends) should help her out.
So they held a meeting among themselves on who to take her in as a second wife and they came to a conclusion.
Now the first. wife of the man that was chosen refused just like the woman refused when her husband wanted another wife, So she thenen went to my dad's friend and she said : "I am being judged by my previous deeds, I refused to allow my husband to take in a second wife and now other women are refusing me too"
At the end this woman did not accept and the widow later married a Christian subhanallah! and her late husband had a masjid outside his house and wallahi after she married this Christian they turned our masjid into a motel where people come and engage in impermissible things.

Our Sisters should just open their mind to this, I am not here to promote or demote polygamy but when it happens lets not us be negative about it wallahi and brothers please learn how to treat our sisters lovely, because wallahi the way some brothers run their polygamous house makes some sister act otherwise. We are not saying there would be no problem at all there would be infact problems are meant to be and that is the essence of jannah. So let the brothers and sisters prepare our minds and actions.
May Allah grant us the coolness of our eyes and Reward us with Jannah.
Wasalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu.

Speaker : Abolude Abdullah (Abu-Suffyan)